Friends and family asked: Was I breastfeeding? Was he was a good sleeper? Just how much was I was enjoying being a mom to this “little survivor?” Even my husband, who, after years of being married to a clinical psychologist has developed a very intuitive mindedness, wanted to focus on the positive, and never look back.
In many ways, high-functioning anxiety is the same as any other type of anxiety, in terms of the way it feels. But one of the key differences is that sufferers are able to tamp it down, hide it, or find a way to use it to their advantage. In the process, it can start to feel like it's not a problem. But that's one of the things therapists want us all to know about high-functioning anxiety — it's still a mental health issue.
Last Wednesday morning, with school drop offs and general morning chaos behind us, we headed to rag & bone where New York HEYMAMA members enjoyed some treats and catching up before sitting down for an expert panel on how to have tough talks with our kids led by our very own Amri Kibbler.
I would absolutely advise someone struggling with depression to try and confide in close family or friends who they know will be supportive. Then I would say find a therapist! Ask around, do some research and if that feels overwhelming ask a trusted physician or other health/wellness provider for recommendations.
The defining feature of sociopaths is their lack of what most of us experience as a guilty conscience. Sociopaths don’t experience remorse or guilt for breaking rules or getting “over on people” the way others do. They thrive on manipulation, power, and aggression.
The specific reasons why we self-sabotage vary between individuals but at the core, it is a defense against feeling something much worse; a way to avoid feeling pain, sadness, loss, shame, etc.
I would say the best indicator of an unequal friendship is your gut feeling that something isn’t quite right. Most of us have had the experience of giving more than we’re getting from our friends and it can take a long time to acknowledge it, especially if it’s a good or old friend.
I think the best way to support a friend is to be there, both physically and mentally. Try to be with your friends for family gatherings, holiday parties, or any other occasion you know will feel tough for them.
When I think back to my first heartbreak of world-ending proportions at age 17, it’s not the feeling of getting dumped that stayed with me through the years, but my mom’s reaction to the breakup.
The American Psychiatric Association describes avoidant personality disorder as having significant impairments in how someone sees themselves — which leads to low self-esteem, extreme sensitivity to criticism, and reluctance to get involved with people unless they know that they will be liked. And while it's not a totally common condition, it does impact around one percent to two percent of the population.